It’s getting very personal out in the world especially if you are a solo woman traveler. For years, I shrugged off the crazy questions, the observations that are best left unsaid and the many comments that folks forgot to filter. I would rationalize it that it was their culture to ask, comment and observe. But lately, I’ve been reading posts by amazing women travelers that make me scream “What is wrong with people?”. Megsy wrote a great post about Having Curves after a comment about “looking overweight and unfit”. She wondered if you can be overweight and travel (um, yes you can, the BMI chart isn’t the only measure of a person’s health). We all can’t be cute and petite like Samantha Brown nor look glamorous after a bucket shower in Botswana . I then read Jeannie’s post about body diversity (inspired by Megsy’s post) after she was called “fat and pregnant” on solo travel to multiple countries where apparently it’s ok to say anything you want. When did filters go away? Common courtesy?
I’m tired of reading about all the defensive measures solo women need to take to explain themselves when they just want to see/enjoy the world. I’m tired of people trying to work out their issues by cutting others down, trying to make people feel less and feeling that it’s ok to make personal comments. I’m tired of the media telling me that I’m not thin/pretty/young enough or worthy enough for this, that or the other. Tired of the ads to try this miracle cure to erase time, wrinkles and fat. Everyday, there are messages telling me “I’m not x enough, not worthy of y or z” so when I travel I like to escape the drama of the everyday and reconnect with the awesomeness that is me – the part of me that knows I am definitely enough (and worthy of cookies, chocolate and wine, in moderation of course). It’s so easy to forget that on the hamster wheel of life.